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Thank God I’m Still Not Religious

So, as some of you might remember, a little while ago I wrote a somewhat erratic note about my perception of religion (for those who have never read it, go to http://www.clonnyserver.com/2010/01/05/thank-god-im-not-religious/). Anyway, I am sat in bed trying to sleep, and again I get to thinking about what my deal is with those who worship.

But before I begin, let me make it abundantly clear I am not hating on religious people. Some of my best friends, people I admire and adore are religious. In most cases this is a choice they made on their own and I am cool with that. I am not someone who discriminates, in fact I am someone who embraces people who live their life their own way. Being individual and true to your beliefs is the most anybody can do, and honesty to one’s self and others is an attribute I value highly.

I suppose the point I am trying to get to is that I still don’t understand the true meaning of religion. My very basic fleshing out of the concept is that it is basically beliefs and truisms that someone lives by. But in a lot of cases it seems that these ways of life don’t relate well to today. A lot of the rules, the ideas and concepts that these religions are based on do not fit in with the modern world, and I think this is a pretty important example of why people seem less and less concerned with faiths. And this goes back to what I wrote in my previous note about religions being formed in a time before science, before the readily available wealth of knowledge and information we have today.

The idea that anybody in the modern age could still live their life by archaic rules and values puzzles me and in some cases annoys the right fuck out of me. The less extreme god-fearing faiths I can tolerate, because at least they make provisions for the fact that we are human, and prone to mistakes and failures. But how some of the more ancient, extreme faiths can still be accepted as readily as they are, and the fact that governments around the world make concessions for these people boggles the mind. Why should socially and culturally advanced civilisations and countries be made to provide exceptions and different rules because of some outdated belief that it is right to kill someone for hurting a cow (yes this is a complete generalisation, I don’t care).

And the same applies the other way around. No person, religious or not, should have any kind of right that allows them to impart their own views and beliefs, in some cases forcibly and violently, upon another person. Yet the powers-that-be conveniently overlook these indiscretions for whatever reasons. Why should anybody, religious or not, have to change the way they live their lives, just because the man in charge favours one god over another?

I still think, and will always think, religion is stupid. As long as parents and elders continue spreading their belief, there is always going to be conflict and war, and we will never really truly advance as a species beyond the self-destructive animals we are now.

Why I’m Not Your Friend…

So I’m sat here with frozen toes and fingers, and a brain flying at a million miles an hour, instead of being asleep (as per usual). Anyway, what’s got me stirring tonight is the apparent weakness of the word “friend”.

In an age of online social sites like Facebook, the ever-growing popularity of “roulette” type websites, and the age old chat programs like ICQ, IRC and MSN, face-to-face communication and shoulder-rubbing is being replaced with the cold and sterile buzz and clicks of computers and keyboards.

And I’m not cool with this. Take a look at my “friends” list. It’s less than a hundred (which is apparently pretty small). Of these 100 people, I’d probably name maybe not even 10, 15 at most, as truly a friend. That’s not to say I don’t value being able to chat and interact with everybody else, but it’s a bit misleading isnt it? Maybe it should be called “people I know or knew at some point”. I’m not a friends whore. I don’t care what my number of friends on my list is. All I care about is that they really are, or could be, my friend. I don’t care if you’re a supermodel, rich, or have good social circles. I don’t care about your religion, wether you are asian, french, italian, british, or even what you like to do in your spare time. I just care that you aren’t a fuckwit and that I can get on with you relatively easily.

But this is also why online contact is so great. There are a few people on my Facebook that I haven’t met other than through things like car clubs, online gaming and the like. I’ve even made promises to go and meet some of these people. This is what I think is great about socialising online. If it weren’t for the ability to be anonymous, to be myself without fear of repercussions or prosecution, I probably would never of had the chance to meet these wonderful people, and form such relationships with them.

I suppose what I am getting at is, I fear at some point people will start being “afraid” of meeting people in person. The fear of being rejected, or giving the wrong impression weighs in heavily for some (even me). People will get used to the set-and-forget nature of online friendships. Don’t like someone? That’s cool, block and delete them. You can’t do that as easily when they are sat right in front of you. I’m afraid that “making new friends” won’t involve actually going and seeing the person at all, ever.

And I’ve been the target of this for some people I thought I was truly making headway with. Friends from highschool, friends I’ve had coffees with and shared time on the couch with when they were lonely. Staying up to ungodly hours of the morning, spent chatting endlessly about eachothers lives. Listening to one another and being human. But as soon as I was out of sight for longer than 30 seconds, blocked and deleted and that was it. Nothing more to be said or done. No sorrys, no apologies, no explanations. Nobody should be expected to accept being brick-walled by someone they believed to be a warm-blooded human being.

So what I ask of all of you who read this, is to not forget who your friends are. Don’t be happy with just the numbers on your friends or contact lists, make an effort to form relationships, make new friends, get out into the world and experience what the rest of us have to offer. A friendship shouldn’t be easy, it should test you, make you think about your values, tug at your emotions and put a real human value on someone you care about.

Peace to you all my Facebook friends. Please, always remember, that the person on the other side of your screen is a real human being, with feelings, thoughts and emotions, and not just a bunch of zeros and ones…